Looking to get deeper into the patterns that are holding you back in life and in love? My new eBook — ‘Chasing Pain’ — helps you get up-close-and-personal with your toxic relationship patterns. You have to confront what’s going wrong before you can put it right, and that’s what this book seeks to help you do. Confront your patterns so you can address them from the inside out.

The honesty you know you need.

There’s no way around it. While the world does a lot of damage to us, we’re ultimately the ones who get end up getting in the way of the smallest of improvements we can make. We avoid real self-honesty because it hurts. Being honest forces us to admit that we have to rethink the way we see ourselves and the world around us.

“…When you rely on someone entirely for your money or your sense of security, you end up trapped and beholden to the choices they make. You can’t be happy that way. Personal autonomy is key in becoming who we want to be and living the lives we want to lead…”

In ‘Chasing Pain’ I help you take an honest look at the warped ways in which you are leaning into your relationships. It also helps you to better understand the reasons behind your suffering, while giving you practical steps you can take to improve your wellbeing, your partnerships, and your life.

At the end of the day it’s up to you.

Our relationships are a direct reflection of who we think we are. When we are riding high with solid self-esteem, we invest ourselves in partners who reflect this worthiness. More than that, we also make investments in ourselves and bettering who we are and the futures that we’re building for ourselves.

Finding that love that we crave starts with loving ourselves. You’re not going to be able to be manifest healthy relationships if you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself. Hard conversations won’t happen. Boundary setting? Forget about it.

All of that is a part of getting those ideal relationships we envision for ourselves. Don’t put the pressure of your happiness on the world. Create that happiness for yourself by addressing your pain points. Lean into a future that is built on the foundation of you, and the right partners will come into your life to complement it. Open up and embrace the honesty. There’s light at the end of the tunnel, but you have to push forward to find it.

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